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Safari Help?

Does anyone else out there use Safari as your main browser? For the past couple of weeks, it's developed a problem that is REALLY annoying. Frequently (as in a few times a day), it stops responding and I have to force quit (losing all my open tabs, of course). Yes. Annoying. Plus, it's just gotten really SLOW. Sometimes, anyway; other times it's fine. I never had trouble with it before . . . it's worked fine for YEARS. So what changed? My software is up to date; I've tried repairing permissions and this hasn't helped. I'm not sure what to do, but this is driving me bonkers. Has anyone else had this problem?

A real update soon - Connor and I had a terrific day yesterday (well, most of the good stuff happened in the evening). I have pictures, too. :D



Sep. 10th, 2007 12:04 am (UTC)
Hee. Okay. Truth #1: Most days, I feel like a terrible mommy. Truth #2: Some days I hate it. Truth #3: I feel like I do only about one third of the cool stuff with him that I'd *like* to do. (This weekend was a good one, though, and we did fun stuff. Some days I just don't have the energy, though).

BUT having said that, I should say that it's also the most amazing thing, and I love him more than anything, so the good outweighs the bad by quite a lot. But still, if some days you find yourself hating it, I think that's TOTALLY normal. (And worrying about that now? Also totally normal). I found it challenging to figure out what to "do" with Connor when he was little. (It's easier now; loads more options, and options that are interesting to me, too). My best advice for you as a new mom is to go out and find yourself some friends with kids the same age. For me, I found these friends (who really became a lifeline for me) in two places: through LaLeche League, and through a Gymboree class. Because for the first couple of years, I honestly had no idea what to do with this little person. Oh, I talked to him and sang to him and showed him books, but there's only so much of that a grown woman can do before going stark raving insane. And sometimes none of that work and he still cried. So it was very nice to get together with other moms and sit around and chat while our babies stared at one another (and a few months later, pulled one another's hair, and wrestled, and etc.). You'll need some adult company, and it's hard to do this with people who *don't* have children . . . it's, well, it's just a totally different world. (Although you have family living nearby, yes? In which case, that might be a big help, too, especially for getting you some time to get away by yourself once in a while, for a massage or pedicure or movie or something). For sure, right now I don't think you need to worry about what to do with the baby. Have some books around, and music (it doesn't have to be children's music, either. I find most music that's produced for children to be soul-suckingly awful; Connor's first "favorite" was Mozart, but he liked James Taylor and bunches of other "real" music, too. Listen to something that won't suck your will to live). :D Little babies don't need anything extra special - just some stimulation of basically any kind and they're learning what they need to learn about the world.

In a couple of years, you'll find plenty of stuff to do. Florida has amazing wild areas to explore (I used to live in Palm Beach Gardens; I <3 Florida), and you'll probably be amazed to discover loads of places (children's museums, science museums, etc) that you never knew existed.

In any case, don't worry (I know you will anyway, but try to remind yourself that you don't have to worry) because you're going to be a WONDERFUL mommy! Really, love is probably the most important thing we can give our children, that and our attention, and I know you'll give both of these generously. And rely on other people as much as you can. Tiny babies can be frustrating, so try and find some other moms to share afternoons with, and accept help from your family when it's offered. Most of all, have fun! It's hard work, but it's also loads and loads of fun. On the good days, anyway. ;)
Sep. 11th, 2007 09:28 pm (UTC)
Oh, but... I'm still worried! But, as you say, I guess that's natural. I'm really just worried that I'll hate the motherhood experience, and then it'll be too late, my entire life will have changed, and there'll be nothing I can do about it... :/

Oooh, I'll have to get lists of good music for the baby, the stuff that Connor liked. And also lists of places you liked in Florida. You know I'm going to be bugging you about this stuff quite a bit, right? I hope I can be as cool a mom to my little girl as you are to Connor.

Yes, I do have family here; my in-laws, and my brother- and sister-in-law, who will all be a tremendous help with the baby. My mother-in-law, especially, will be my go-to babysitter, and afternoon entertainment. What should we do this afternoon? I know, let's go visit Granny! For Granny has a pool, and is wonderful with children. I don't think I could do it, otherwise. :)

Thanks for all the great advice! I am just scared that I'll be resentful of all the giving I'll have to do. I'm used to taking, taking, taking.
Sep. 13th, 2007 01:21 am (UTC)
Hee! You can bug me about this stuff any time you like. :)

Honestly? There will be times when you WILL be resentful - babies (and children in general) can be hard work. But mostly, you're just going to love your baby SO MUCH and you won't really be able to remember what life was like before she came along, so it's all right. The good totally outweighs the bad. Just remember that, and you'll be fine. :)
Sep. 17th, 2007 03:06 am (UTC)
I'm sure I'll feel like that once she's actually born, but for the meantime I'm feeling all apprehensive. Because what if I DON'T?

Anyway, I'll definitely be leaning on you guys once she actually makes her entrance...
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